It is considered poor form to burst into tears or convey distress upon receiving a gift. Poor form for anyone over the age of five, though it’s good to start children early on the path of stoicism.
The correct response to unwanted Christmas presents: cultivating grace. Hiding any bitter disappointment and reciprocating with a delightfully hand written thank you card.
Difficult as it is – There is not a lot else one can do.
If there Is sufficient space, a dedicated ‘unwanted gifts’ cupboard can be created. Lock the doors to the horrors- out of sight out of mind. (that doesn’t work for me, as I am a dedicated declutterer and simply don’t have the spare cupboard.)
# e bay has certain possibilities, (though painfully time consuming)
# some of the better things can go directly to charity,
# sadly others, directly into the bin.
Over the years, I have almost perfected my gift exchange regime, and succeeded in minimising duds. (acrylic pashminas, eczema inducing bath products, toxic room fragrances, expensive shoes that do not fit, are some joys that I recall from days bygone. What was the worst present you ever got?)
It is said, that people give as gifts things they would like to receive themselves, so pay attention. Sometimes of course it’s pure laziness or intense ‘regifting’, which is after all the original form of recycling. Other times, I have been given gifts which were embarrassingly expensive and simply did not fit into my simple aesthetic. Including a gift receipt would help with this particular problem, though anyone returning boodles diamonds, may seem a tat ungrateful.
Friends & family, are mostly content to take me out for a drink and hand me a little note from their WWF gift donation. Sheer bliss, I shall love you for ever. The LSH (long suffering husband) is an exception to the rule, as he buys the best gifts ever, things did not even know, one could not live without…
So off I go to write my thank you notes to all, and ponder on my New Years fashion resolutions coming up shortly.
On that note- a big thank you to those of you wonderful friends, for donating to save the elephant and support our precious wild life.
Please make your donation and get in touch for the passwords! attaching a copy of the receipt. Any donation to the animal charities is very welcome, however small. Awareness is more important than money. Please donate directly to the charities,